When I picked up the book “The Little Big Things” by Henry Fraser I did not realise it would affect me the way that it did. What particularly stuck with me was his mentality. Here was a 17 year old who had his spinal cord severely crushed so badly that it left him a paralysed from the shoulders down. But that never stopped him.
The way that he looks for the positive, how he acknowledges his progress no matter how small and how to accept and adapt to the darkness if it comes is exactly the mentality I try so hard to instil within my clients.
As the saying goes, pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. And this couldn’t be further from the truth!
This book is one that I will be returning to again and again when my own dark clouds hit.
“…in a relatively short space of time I’d become far more resolute, far less frightened of trying new things even if they didn’t work out, and had somehow rewired my brain to avoid looking at the wrong things.
Instead, more often than not, I was able to look to the right things, the places where my energies would be rewarded by progress, however small.
All of us had come to realise that we would become stronger if we focused on the things we were able to do, not the things we couldn’t.”